Have you ever been so mad you wanted to scream???!!!!
Has that happened to you lately???!!
What good came of it???
That is the question my fellow leaders. “What good has ever come of our anger?”
A few weeks ago I was driving home and started thinking about a situation that was making me furious. My blood was boiling! It is usually the principle of the situation I’m mad at and not the person. However, at this moment in time I was “hating the players AND the game.” (I was angry with myself as well which negatively magnified the entire situation.)
I began thinking about the situation and how mad I was. The unintentional “day dream” began with different scenarios, conversations, etc racing through my mind and they preoccupied me mentally. It was at that time I realized I was so consumed by my anger that I passed my own street! Seriously!!!??? Who passes their own street driving home???!!
At that moment I knew I had to act fast and get my anger under control. I arrived home and as I was walking in the door I was greeted by my amazing wife with a smile and had my moment of clarity. I thought to myself, “Today is a wonderful day and I have been given a wonderful life.” I immediatly felt like myself again.
In Robert Greene’s book, The 48 Laws of Power, he states that you must master your emotions and never let anger control your actions or reactions. I cannot think of a single moment in my life where letting my anger control me made things better.
So why do we do it!?
We are human and it is natural to feel anger. However, controlling our emotions can be one of the hardest things to master. A few years ago I was fortunate enough to have dinner with Shell Oil Company’s former President John Hofmeister. A handful of other Cleveland 20/30 members and I had the opportunity to learn from his experiences and expertise. In regards to one of the topics we were discussing one of the members asked him, “Doesn’t that make you so angry!?” His reply of wisdom has stuck with me ever since. He said, “I don’t get angry. It never helps.”
My challenge for you my fellow leaders is to actively stop your anger in its tracks. Do not let it become part of the equation. It will be a constant battle, but one you can win.
Anger will continue to blind us of the logical and rational thing to do. Simply let it go.
We must remember we have all been given a wonderful life.
Enjoy the day!
— James Schleicher