There is a saying, “The limit is not in the sky, it is in the mind.”

This struck me as nearly true and honest as you can be. The “sky” is vague and unrealistic unless you have a private jet parked in your driveway. However, the mind knows what no one else knows.

Your mind knows if you gave up or if you truly gave it everything you had. Your mind knows when, how, and why you made the decision to quit or press on.

Your mind will create whatever reality you let it. Your thoughts consume the majority of your day. Many of them irrational and unrealistic. Especially during times of great stress, confrontation, and conflict.

Check in with yourself. Tell yourself, “Be here now.”  Regain focus of what you can control. Then keep pressing towards your goals and leave the wandering of your mind for another time.

Amy Purdy’s Ted Talk on Living Beyond Limits is a great testimonial on how it is our mental toughness and adaptability that can overcome physical limitations. She asks the question, “If you were the author of your life how would you want your story to go?”

Will your story be that of regrets or triumphs? Will you be proud of your actions in times of despair and difficulty?

Ultimately, you can do whatever you want. You can say whatever you want. You can attempt to justify to others your moments of weakness when you gave up instead of pushing through to see what was actually possible. At the end of the day you have to live with yourself and you’ll know what really happened. Only YOU will know whether to be proud or ashamed of your actions.

The mind knows all self-truth my friends.

We all have regrets. DO NOT LET THEM DEFINE YOU. DO NOT LET THEM TELL YOUR STORY.

Focus on living a life that YOU will be proud of.

-ibbjames