Could guilt be one of the most beneficial aspects to your ultimate success??
According to the definition of guilt, it causes us to believe we have compromised our own standards of conduct or have violated a moral standard and bears significant responsibility for that violation.
The majority of views towards guilt are negative. Guilt is mostly seen as a bad thing to feel. However, I challenge you to take a deeper look into some of the guilt you feel about certain aspects of your life.
For example, I found myself not feeling tired last night and decided that I would watch the Game of Thrones episode I missed when I was out of town for work last week. However, as I went to turn on the TV I felt an immediate sense of guilt. The guilty voice in my head was saying, “You should do something productive instead.”
I am a firm believer that anything in our lives can be our greatest strength and at times our greatest weakness. I ended up beginning this blog last night and felt better about not being “productive.” However, we all need time to relax and unwind. Keeping it balanced is key.
In Brene Brown’s TED Talk she talks about shame and how it should not be confused with guilt. This was eye opening for me on the benefits of guilt and the pitfalls of shame.
She talks about how shame is a focus on self. However, guilt is a focus on behavior. Guilt says, “I made a mistake.” While shame says, “I am a mistake.”
Guilt is good to have as an inner voice monitoring your behaviors. It can be a productivity coach for your daily actions. However, it is important to NEVER let your guilt cross over into shame. Shame is irrational and self destroying. Let guilt drive you not destroy you.
If you are feeling guilty for something, stop what you’re doing and make the decision to do something about it. The only cure for negative guilt (shame) is the momentum of taking positive action towards the change you want to see in your life.
I look forward to seeing you use your guilt as a weapon for positive and productive action in your life. If you are feeling shame understand that it is guilt getting out of control when it comes to what others think about us and what we think about ourselves.
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Enjoy your day my friends!